Abundance Of All – Consulting

Success Stories

Clients sharing how their life is now:

Abundance of intimacy and harmony

I got home from work to find my partner wasn’t home. He was supposed to go for a 15-minute walk and be home by the time I got home, but he was not. I got angry. I know better in my head that I can trust him.

However, I got anxious, worried, and fearful that if he got hurt. My imagined danger goes on and on.

It does not take much to activate my jealousy, anxiety, worry, fear, and upset with him for everything he does and does not. So much so he said, “If this continues, we cannot be together.”

My fear of losing him is about to come true. I need to do something about it. I called Sukhee, and she gave me an emergency measure of coaching to relax my panicky little inner child and breathing techniques to calm me down.

I learned how to identify what’s reality (is happening now) and what is in the past. How to communicate understanding, care, and trust. And, most importantly, how to love myself and others and give them a space.

Since then, my world has changed. I am confident and unstoppable everywhere, even making grand presentations to renowned groups of scholars. And, of course, my partner and I are harmonious together.

~ Anonymous ~

Abundance of love and understanding

Sukhee wanted me to keep track of what I eat and my energy level after 2 hours to see what food is good for my body type and gives me energy and what is not. “I don't care. I hate food. Food is my enemy.” I stopped listening and talked over her about everything great about me.
She stopped coaching me, saying when you are ready...

A month or so later, when I was ready, she asked, "What happened in your childhood that caused food to become your enemy?" Just thinking about it, I got upset. My mother never paid attention to me, even when I got an important award at school. She only paid attention to me when I didn’t eat. She would sit next to me at the dining table, beckoning me to eat, even resorting to feeding me for hours until all the food was gone.

My father would take my brother and me to the ice cream shop after dinner. He sat me facing the wall with no ice cream as a punishment for not finishing dinner, and they ate their ice cream while making fun of me.

After listening to me, Sukhee asked, “Why do you think they did that to you? What did they want for you? What was their commitment to you? Please take time and think about it.” So, I started thinking:

The mother doesn’t love me and must have her way.
The father punishes the bad girl and rewards the good boy.

Perhaps they just wanted me to eat? What for?
To be healthy? Why they care?
Because they love and care about me?
Wow!
They love me!

I called my mother, “Thank you, Mom, for being so patient when I was little and not eating the food, I am sorry.” to my surprise, she started sharing her life with me and how it was for her.

It was tough at times. I bit my tongue and let her talk. I listened to her, and she knew I was getting her. I did the same with my father, and our relationship got restored. That was it.

Now, we have become so close, much like girlfriends, freely saying things, with no more daily demands for a dutiful call and no more stressful obligations.

~ Jennifer Kingsley ~

Abundance of respect and leadership

I am anxious, tired, and angry because people blame me for not being there in their time of need and gossip about it. Some people give no clear directions or instructions and are angry at me for not producing the desired results. Am I supposed to be a mind reader? What about my wants and needs? I am exhausted and have no time and energy left to take care of myself, and I fear losing their love and friendship.

Sukhee says, “You have to know very clearly what you want and what you don’t want, then you will set your boundaries and teach others how to treat you.” “You cannot be unclear or give a soft space. You must keep your word because that is your boundary post. Otherwise, your boundary means nothing to all, including you. It will require your bravery and commitment.” So, we set my boundaries

At first, I was anxious and fearful of saying “No. It doesn’t work for me to do that this time.” With continuous practice, it got easier and easier to say no, and then I noticed people started to show respect for me, my time, my convenience, and my commitment. What a breakthrough! People began asking first. They stop assuming that I will do their beck and call. They started keeping their word and even came to my aid.

I saw respect in their eyes, my confidence grew, and I felt my power. I am a leader in my social groups and family, and I am a leader in my profession, too. These days I am so happy.

~ Connie Mayland ~

Abundance of beauty and trust

I wanted to lose 11 pounds to fit into my dream wedding gown in an elite shop in my home country.

Then, when I was almost at my desired weight, I started craving food, but I was not hungry. I could get by during the day when I was busy, but around 9 PM came a hunger pang. I usually give in and eat, and I sabotage myself. Why? Since I was not physically hungry, what was I hungry for?

First, I feel unsafe and fearful that I may disappear from the earth, a reminder of childhood anorexia. I am safe now, healthy, and strong. Okay, and still, I feel empty inside. An emotional hunger. So, what do I need right now? Closing my eyes and imagining my lover holding me, caressing me, loving me, and my arms are empty. Devastated. Anxiety comes over me. When will he awake, open his eyes, and see me?

One day, after discussing being honest with each other, I said, “I need some space.” and he left.

– – –

I took my life inventory, as per Sukhee’s suggestion, and found love and trust were missing.

My mother never loved me, and I don’t trust her. She often took me to my aunt’s home and left me there, never hearing me say, “Don’t leave me here, please take me with you. I want to go with you.” She always left me there, abandoning me.
Wait.
My mother must have come and got me otherwise, she couldn’t have taken me there again. She didn’t abandon me. I was never abandoned.

My aunt’s home was filled with many cousins and an uncle who adored and admired me. They all loved me! By taking me there, my mother created an opportunity to receive abundant love beyond my imagination.

And why was I not aware of these for all these years? I was too busy suffering ‘the poor abandoned little girl story.’ With this realization, my heart fills to the brim with overflowing love and expands with trust, and I am happy.’

I am whole, beautiful, and complete, just as I am, and I dance with yellow roses at 9 PM, celebrating all that I am.
Oh, 11 pounds? That means nothing.

~ Angela Koh ~

Abundance of love for my daughter

My daughter called me for the first time in 30 years and invited me to her home. I said "Yes" just because she called, and now I don't know what to do. I can't breathe or sit still. What does she want? What will she say? What will she do to me? Why did she invite me to her home? Home, I've never been to. Husband, I've never met. And I am scared and unable to calm down. I called Sukhee with shaking hands.

After listening to me for a while, Sukhee asked me, "What do you want most in your life?" I said, "I want to be a great father to her, but I failed. It's too late. I've never been around when she was growing up. I did nothing for her but caused her pain, and it got worse and worse... and I gave up."

"You are a great father." Sukhee shocked me and continued, "If you weren't a great father, you would not know everything you did to hurt her and heart-aching about it now. Yes, a lot has happened in the past. Each time she got hurt, she put up a fence to protect her from you, just as you did to protect yourself. So, there is a great forest of fences between you two."

"Now, she has knocked down some fences and made the first move to reach out to you. What are you going to do? Living in the past hurt and ignore her now, or take your turn, knock down some of your fences, and touch her fingers? It is up to you. It wasn't easy for her. She is just as scared as it is for you, probably holding her breath, but she did it. It will take time and hard work every step of the way."

That was three years ago, and now, we get together regularly for family dinners, and I am confident I am a great father. My grandson and I get to play ball at parks on weekends. I am so happy and proud to be in their life now. I have never thought a harmonious family relationship was possible with my daughter. I admire my daughter’s bravery in calling me that day, and I thank Sukhee.

~ Tom McCauley ~

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